Comments on: You Have Nothing To Fear, It’s Only Me

By: This Eclectic Life » Another Artist For Me To Love: Sissel

This Eclectic Life » Another Artist For Me To Love: Sissel — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 15:17:57 +0000

[...] told y’all before that I’ve “never met a stranger.” To the consternation (and never-ending amazement) of my rather shy husband, I will strike [...]

By: Marcia

Marcia — Thu, 10 May 2007 06:21:40 +0000

I know why I adore you (besides the other reasons). You are one of the angels that shy people like me need to get us over the threshold into the room of strangers. I have grown out of it a thousand fold but have so far to go. Sometimes I start conversations with strangers, but it is usually someone I feel is struggling themselves. I am quite brave, however, at acting the dumb blonde if a clerk is having a bad day, let her smile at my expense if that is the only way. I still fall back into it and could/will NEVER go to a seminar alone. I enjoy being quiet and listening in groups though for the most part, unless I REALLY a comfortable, then I don’t shut up. I have started smiling at strangers more and saying hello. You never know when that snob is really just shy — I know I was mistaken on more than one occasion for a snob and I was just too afraid to even speak to anyone. . . It’s fun growing up and out. . .(not width wise. . .)

It is fun growing out…learning to open up. I always thought I was “shy,” but having conversations with folks you hardly know can be somewhat addictive (Do you think I have an addictive personality??). I love that you will be a dumb blonde for a clerk. Especially, since you are NOWHERE near dumb, which is one of the reasons I adore you right back!~skt

By: Frigga

Frigga — Mon, 07 May 2007 17:10:36 +0000

Good Post!! I try to be more like you, the more I practice the easier it gets.

You don’t necessarily want to be like ME, but you can be more open to people. It is much easier the more you try it.~skt

By: Harlekwin

Harlekwin — Sun, 06 May 2007 23:17:17 +0000

I’m a smiler. I love smiling at people and getting them to smile back. Often a smile brings on a conversation and the time spent waiting in a line is made more enjoyable. The only place I find people unwilling to smile back is at the Post Office…wonder what’s up with that?

In my shop, I have two objectives…the first is a sale and the second is to say something positive to every person who comes through the door. On many occasions I’ve been told my words really helped someone have a better day!

I really enjoyed reading this post, especially about the Goth kids. How wonderful you saw through the ‘tude and engaged them for what they are…people.

Thanks, Harlekwin. Smiling is good. Sometimes you can smile at people, not say a thing, and make them nervous as heck! The post office? I never have a problem there. Is everybody postal in your town? I like your attitude about saying something positive. That’s a good goal to have. As for the Goth kids, hey I see all kinds of kids in the schools everyday. I deal with people of all different colors, religions, political views, and sexual preferences. People are just folks…and I do my best to like them all. Thanks for visiting. ~skt

By: Jen

Jen — Sun, 06 May 2007 16:21:41 +0000

My brother is a talker, when he was young and my parents brought him places, he was forever talking to people.

My husband and I are in between you and your husband, we will make comments or jokes to others in lines. We don’t have too many elevators here in NH, seriously, I think we only have them in the Holiday inn and the hospitals. Okay, maybe more in Manchester, but not in Concord.

It does pay to talk!
Hey, I tagged you late last night, but I think we already know a lot about you from your blogs.

You say your brother is a talker, and you aren’t?? Is that what you say??? Hey, I don’t believe that for a minute. No elevators? I’m sorry. I just saw that tag thing and responded. I haven’t been able to do much surfing. I had to get sleep last night so I could travel today. I sure hope next week settles down! We’ll have to get on Yahoo and play catch up.~skt

By: Robin

Robin — Sun, 06 May 2007 15:40:10 +0000

Oh my goodness, you’re one of the Scary Elevator People . Many years ago, my late mother-in-law was undergoing medical treatment in Houston. My husband and I flew out for a visit. Whenever we’d get into an elevator out there everyone would say hello. If they saw you a second time they were practically best friends. Scared the crap out of us I tell you. We both grew up in the NYC area and live in Israel, and we were NOT used to that I tell you. Very freaky LOL.

Seriously though, I’m another fairly chatty one. I have no problem talking with a stranger I’m stuck in a long line with or something, but this saying hello every time you get into an elevator was definitely disconcerting for someone who grew up knowing never to make eye contact with anyone in an elevator. Heck, you try to not even breathe to loudly in one of those things.

Oh, Robin, I’m sorry if people like me scare you! Since you are from the New York area, I can understand why. I might even act differently if I were in a big city. I hope I meet you in an elevator sometime. I’ll know it’s you if your eyes go wide!! ~skt

By: Alissa

Alissa — Sun, 06 May 2007 14:37:49 +0000

My mom, my daughter and I have this same trait. My dad says we “just want to be a part of everyone’s world”. I myself walk the fine line of teaching my children to be healthy and careful yet still friendly and true to themselves. Another thing that counts in situations like your policeman/parking lot example is manners. I tell my children all the time that “good manners and a good education can get you anywhere you need to go.”

It’s hard to walk that line…and I don’t know how it’s done. We do have to be careful with our kids. But, there is no point in having them live in fear. Yep, manners and a good education are all you need. Smart Mommy.~skt