Present: Tense, Past: Imperfect

I was the quintessential “Earth Mother.”

Did any of y’all go through a phase like that? I’ve been remembering those days long ago, as the television news warns me of dire economic times ahead.

It was the early 70s, and I had already missed my chance to be a “hippie.” In my conservative small town, few of us had been brave enough to buck our parents convictions and experiment with that lifestyle.

When I married Mr. X, I made up for it. It was my own personal “back to the land movement.” I grew my own vegetables and learned to preserve them. After months of slaving in the garden and the kitchen, the shelves of my pantry were lined with colorful jars of tomatoes, beans, okra, and corn. At the time, I could have bought the same amount of colorful cans of those vegetables at the store for a couple of hundred dollars.

Hours over the stove produced an exceptionally fine picante sauce coveted by many who were the recipients of my generosity. More than one person requested jars of “Aunt Shelly’s Plum Jelly.” I confess that I took great pride in the fact that I didn’t have to buy produce from the store. But, I wasn’t considering what my time was worth.

Though I had not been taught these skills as a child (my mother’s generation had forgotten, or never learned, to do them), I learned from books how to can vegetables. Usually I was successful.

There was that one embarrassing incident when I tried to impress my German mother-in-law. I attempted to turn my cabbage crop into sauerkraut. Painstakingly, I hand shredded every head, mixed my batch of kraut and put it in an enormous crock to ferment. When I examined it and saw a film of gunk floating on top, I was aghast. I thought it was ruined, and dumped it in the garden so no one would see my failure — only to find perfect sauerkraut beneath the scum. I had no idea it was supposed to do that! My mother-in-law’s conviction that I was an idiot was confirmed in her narrow mind.

I honed my homemaking skills far beyond what most people did. I hand-dipped my own candles. I made my own scented soaps. I learned to spin thread on a spinning wheel, to weave thread into cloth, grew my own dye garden to color the wool, and even raised a “herd” of angora rabbits for their hair. I could take that hair and make something to wear (with several months of labor). We would never go nekkid …unless we wanted to do so.

I was confident that, if the economy collapsed, my skills would help our family survive independently. There were folks who laughingly suggested that I should have been born in frontier times, since my hobbies all seemed to be derived from activities that women did back then.

Let me assure you that those things are much more enjoyable if you don’t have to do them to survive!

That phase of my life only lasted a couple of years. I feel certain, however, that if our current economy collapses I still have the skills within me to help us survive.

Sunday Scribblings posed the following writing prompt:

The exercise this week is to decide what era in history you would choose to live in if you couldn’t live now. Not just when, but why? While you’re at it, how about where? What do you imagine life would be like?

I’ve used that as a prompt, but I’ve had to turn it around a bit. One would think I’d choose frontier times…but, no. In fact, I simply do not choose to imagine living in any time but the present.

It is true that we are living in very frightening times. However, I have no false nostalgia for the past. Every time period had its drawbacks. It might be fun to pretend for a few hours at a Renaissance fair or a pioneer village, but I’m happy with right here … right now.

Even with all the political and economic turmoil, my friends, these are pretty darned good times to be alive.

I know that many of us are thinking in negative mode right now. But, I want you to stop for a moment and think of one good thing about life in the here and now. You only have to think of one. You can tell me in a comment or not, as long as you hear your answer.

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7 Comments on “Present: Tense, Past: Imperfect”

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Kacey said:

Good post as usual. I never did have that back to the land stage of life. I went from college to the corporate world, then later after a couple of kids, stayed home with them for a few years in suburbia. Not very conducive to the whole living off the land. I am jealous of people who can do it though…and enjoy it.

Thankful? I have so much. The boys’ health. The health of my dh and our parents. Wonderful weekend weather. Sometimes it really is great to pause and remember all we have to be thankful for, or as you suggested, even one thing.

Kaceys last blog post..What the world needs now

lol No need to be jealous of the “back to the land” business. It was a lot of work! And, yes, especially right now, with the media predicting doom, finding a reason to be thankful helps us keep what sanity we have remaining!

October 12th, 2008 at 7:51 am
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janeywan said:

Great post Shelly. There are times when I’d like to go back in time, however not farther back than during the life I’ve allready lived.
I sometimes think how easy times were when I felt the security of my mother and dad making decisions, now I’m making decisions for my mother, and until recently for my dad, these are turbulent and frustrating times and I want to do right by them (well for my mother).
I feel the pain of people that are close to me. I see dreams drying up. History repeats itself over and over again. Having said that I wouldn’t choose to go back to another time, I just need to learn to deal with the present in a more effective manner.
This is all part of life and every time period held it’s own challenges and uncertainties. Food, a warm place to lay my head at night and the med’s that keep me comfortable are about as much as I really need. Am I thankful? You bet! Am I out of the game? Not yet…

janeywans last blog post..Decisions

Jan, all those things with which you deal can be quite depressing. But, all we have is the present…and I truly think we have to do our darndest to be positive. Hang in there.

October 12th, 2008 at 9:00 am
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Jamie said:

An excellent take on a prompt that I am going to steal next week with appropriate credit to you. For myself, I went through the “earth mother” in a minor way as we were the young marrieds with a house where the real “hippies” including the bother in law could lay over on their way to San Francisco. Since all of the aunts had been raised in the depression, all of their daughters learned to can. It is a handy skill and I may give it another try if things get too weird.

Places in history other than now? There are several to be expounded on later, but more than that a severe case of “too soon old, too late smart”. I would love to go back and make a few different decisions in this life except each led to each and for everything bad that happened, erasing it would elimiate the good things that stemmed from it as well, so I guess I like the life I’ve lived.

No need to credit me…or blame me lol . As far as the canning and such, it is definitely a skill to have. Let’s hope we don’t need it! And, like you I’ve spent hours wishing I had taken different paths sometimes, but both good and bad led to right here. I can’t imagine any other place to be…and don’t want to imagine it.

October 12th, 2008 at 10:15 am
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Robin said:

I went for a more light-hearted approach to the prompt, but you’re right of course. EVERY era has its own drawbacks. That’s the benefit of having those rose-colored glasses on when you look at them.

As for one good thing from today? Why the internet of course. Otherwise I’d never have met you and so many other wonderful friends, and the world would be a much larger, colder place.

Robins last blog post..Random Cuteness

I had intended to be light-hearted, but it’s not in me right now. I was trying to turn this into one of my “only the good” posts, because I need that right now. Absolutely, the internet is a blessing, isn’t it? I’m so glad we met … sort of met, anyway.

October 12th, 2008 at 11:58 am
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Mimi Lenox said:

Your June 2008 peace globe has been placed in The Peace Globe Gallery.
You are officially peace globe #1050.
BlogBlast For Peace ~ November 6, 2008 is going to be awesome! Please spread the word on your blog. Hope to see you there.

Thanks for the heads up, Mimi. I’ll see what I can do.

October 12th, 2008 at 5:50 pm
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Derek Wong said:

You’re definitely right, I would choose to live in the present. Even with people who are too often callous and self-serving, nations that are greedy, and changing economic climates, life is not all bad.

I think that those homemaking skills that you attained are amazing! I’m duly impressed.

Derek Wongs last blog post..Willing To Change

Aw shucks. It wasn’t so impressive. I was bored lol

October 13th, 2008 at 10:56 am
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patois said:

You never cease to amaze me with your skills. And, yes, in the end, I would choose to live today, with the life I have and the family that I call my own.

patoiss last blog post..When is it Called "Theft"

I’ve heard it said “You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present.” Any today is a very good day.

October 13th, 2008 at 12:27 pm
 
 

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