He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not. Superstitions About Love and Marriage.

Was it just girls who did the old superstitious trick of plucking the petals from daisies to see if a boy loved them or did boys do this, too?


You know the drill: You pull a daisy by the stem and pluck the petals one-by-one. As you pluck, you count — not with numbers, but by by saying, “He loves me, he loves me not, he loves me, etc.” Whatever phrase you utter when you pull the last petal from the daisy is the truth of the matter.

I’m a slow study, so it took me awhile to figure out that in order to get the “correct outcome,” I should count the petals on the flower before I pulled it. If the number of petals was odd, then he would love me! Keep that in mind, if you decide to place your faith in that superstition.

It seems that romantic young people (or desperate young people) have had superstitions since the dawn of civilization about how to find true love. For this Thursday, I pulled together some of them for you (most of them dating to earlier than the 1800s)… just in case you are in the market and need them. Please keep in mind that I don’t guarantee any of them to work.


  1. Count fifty white horses, and the first unmarried man that you shake hands with after counting the fiftieth is the man you will marry.

    white-mustang-cobra-svtThis one is pretty quaint and you could be waiting a long time unless you live in a rural area. I suggest that we update this superstition: Count 50 Mustangs! If you are in a hurry, just find one Mustang, and drive around the block fifty times. That works for me.

  2. If you sleep with a piece of wedding cake under your pillow, you will dream of the one you will marry. This works with mirrors under the pillow, as well. Personally, I would go with a mirror on this one (as long as it is a tiny one so it doesn’t break and give you seven years of bad luck). Wedding cake under the pillow could make a terrible mess, if you toss and turn as much as I do.

  3. When you go fishing, name your fish hook after your sweetheart. If a fish swallows it, your sweetheart loves you and will swallow anything you say. Ahem! Sound pretty fishy to me.

  4. If you swallow whole the heart of a chicken you can marry the man or woman of your choice. If you don’t choke to death trying to do it. The very thought makes me gag. If this was my only option, I would wait and take my chances.

  5. Write the names of several people in whom you are interested on slips of paper and place them under your pillow. Every time you wake during the night, throw one of the slips away. The last one remaining will have on it the name of the person you will marry. That’s all well and good, unless you are a sound sleeper … in which case you might want to consult Wikipedia for the countries in which polygamous marriages are legal and hope that Wikipedia is right.

  6. Name two nuts and pitch them into the fire; the nut that pops open first will bear the name of your future spouse.Nut,” in this case refers to “a seed borne within a fruit having a hard shell” … just so there is no confusion.

  7. Twist the stem of an apple till it comes out, saying a letter of the alphabet every time you give the stem a twist. The letter that you are saying when the stem comes out will be the first letter of your future husband’s name.Of course, if the object of your heart’s desire has a name beginning with “W” (as in William) you might have to fake it a little bit to get a good outcome.

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  9. If a girl will hang a horseshoe over her door, she can marry the first unmarried man who walks under it. If you hang the horseshoe with the ends up, it will catch good luck. Hanging it ends down will let the good luck spill over the door and stop evil from entering. Hopefully it will keep any evil suitor from entering as well!

  10. Steal the hatband of the man you desire and wear it as a garter. I don’t know how to update this one. Who wears hatbands or garters? And if you stole his hatband, would there ever be trust in the relationship?

  11. Build a fire and give it the name of the person who attracts you. If the wood catches and burns, then the person you pine for, so to speak, loves you. If it goes out … that person doesn’t have a “burning love” for you.

  12. A girl can find out the occupation of her future husband by counting the buttons on her dress. Instead of counting with numbers, count with this chant:
    “Rich man, poor man, beggar-man, thief,
    Doctor, lawyer, Indian chief.”

    If it didn’t work out as planned, I suggest you add or remove buttons until you get what you want. Personally, this one doesn’t appeal to me. First of all, the rhyme leaves out too many options. Second, a young girl should be worrying more about her own options for employment.

  13. On Halloween night, take a comb and go to a vacant house. Look into a mirror as you comb your hair, and you will see the face of the person you will marry looking over your shoulder. Or, you might see a ghost.

  14. If a girl stumbles near the top of a stairway, she will marry soon, but if she stumbles near the bottom, many a day will pass before she marries. That one seems backwards to me, because if you stumble at the top of the stairs you could fall and break your neck. Oh, well. It is what it is.

If you are feeling lovesick, you can try any of these that you would like. If you have other superstitions to suggest, go ahead and leave them in comments … just in case yours will give the definitive answer on how to find true love.

  6 comments for “He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not. Superstitions About Love and Marriage.

  1. August 29, 2013 at 2:40 pm

    They were all good for a chuckle. Being the first of pretty much any friends I’ve ever had and the 4 of us cousins (I have a sister and 2 cousins on my dad’s side, nothing on my mom’s) to get married (when I was 19) and so far away (in Maryland whereas I am from and we live in WNY), the chance of using the cake was next to nil. I did the apple stem a million times as a kid – never got to T. And guess the name of my hubby (yes, the one since I was 19)? Thomas. So, they tell me nothing….

    • August 29, 2013 at 2:57 pm

      Allison, getting to a “t” when twisting the apple stem is simply a matter of pretending. The young man who caught my eye was named William, so I was very careful not to turn the stem too much and to push against the apple, so no one could tell that the stem had disconnected!

  2. August 29, 2013 at 3:21 pm

    I remember being told if you sit at the corner of a table, you will end up a spinster. Fate worse than death, eh?

    • August 29, 2013 at 3:42 pm

      bwahahaha! I kinda liked that the one about the chicken heart said you could marry “the man or woman of your choice.” Sounded very progressive for the day. 😉

  3. WOL
    August 30, 2013 at 7:16 pm

    You left out the one about catching the brides bouquet. Didn’t work for me either. There was a custom in England of giving female wedding guests little pieces of wedding cake in boxes, one assumes so the recipient could put it under her pillow. If I was going to put a piece of wedding cake under my pillow, I’d prefer it be in a box … or a baggie. If it was loose cake, (a) it would make a mess, (b) one or more of the kitties would try eating it and (c) refund it on the carpet. Loudly. About two hours before I’d planned to get up.

  4. dee
    January 6, 2014 at 1:10 pm

    HAHA ..these are funny and bizarre in a way I went to a psychic and she said you will meet a very wealthy man-counted the button on the first dress of mine that I saw because I dont wear them and there was just one button…so heres hoping
    on another site it said count the number of the buttons of a pair of old boots that you wear sees the amount of years you will have to wait to getting married,the first boots that I saw came to number 4-another prediction the psychic,who knows..

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